i draw or carbonize haggis



Sometimes the spam subject lines are so fantastic, aren't they? They're like the things you say when you're on drugs (for those very, very few of you who know how that is; I know what a clean crowd you are) that are completely crystalline in the moment. Perfect, beautiful, true. And then later, if you remember the line, or if you managed to write it down in such a way that it is legible to your sober self, it doesn't make the smallest bit of sense.

There's a line like that I think about every single time I do dishes that was coined by one of my favorite college roommates. This was Star, who I roomed with in desperation when I moved off-campus mid-year. Our mutual friend swore it wouldn't work, that we were too different, but that ended up working in our favor. Star was sociable, funny, and very wry. She smoked and drank and carried her cat to class in her backpack, with his big fluffy orange head sticking out.

I think it was in 1990 that Star, three of our friends, and I did mushrooms together in honor of Springfest. Like so many drug stories, the blow-by-blow account of the day is probably not terribly interesting, other than the fact that the five of us got seperated on campus and it was like the Odyssey getting home, complete with sirens, wax plugs in the ears, men being turned into pigs, the whole thing. Fortunately each of us had found a helpful friend; mine (this is actually how I know Princess) took me to the late, lamented Table of Contents and tried to get me to eat something but I kept shrieking that everyone had to hide their forks from me because I was the Queen and then went and hid in the bathroom for a few years. So, you know, not one of my finest moments.

Anyway. Princess finally managed to sail the Queen Indri into port, and then hung out for a while watching in fascination as the reunited voyagers attempted to explain to each other what had happened.

This is a towel of no self-respect, Star said of a dishtowel someone brought out to clean up something we'd spilled. Probably so we could stare at it spreading on the floor. And it was such a brilliant line, and made much more sense than it's your plight, the night's other oft-repeated line.

I'm not really writing this to glorify drug use. Or for that matter to condemn it. But a few years ago, I bought a pack of a dozen dishtowels from a restaurant supply place, and now they're my towels of no self-respect. There are so many of them that I take liberties I might not with fancier, more expensive ones. Lately I've been using them to eat the plums I bought at the farmer's market this weekend; the lovely thing about living alone is that if you want to stand in the kitchen holding a towel to your chin as you eat something messy, who's going to say anything?

I would love to find Star again. She was a trip. Pun not intended, but you know me, I'll take it anyway.

forgive me if i'm not clear on the concept

But if the seven people ahead of him/her in line are all dead or incapcitated, why would we reward the Secretary of Homeland Security for doing such a bad job of protecting them by making him/her President?

Or is the idea that whatever took out everyone from the President down to the Attorney General is something the SHS is better equipped to handle than the Secretary of the Interior? Not that I want Gale Norton as President any more than Michael Chertoff, I'm just asking.

Maybe I'm looking at this from the wrong angle. Maybe if you can't keep the President, the Vice President, the Speaker of the House, and so on down to the AG safe, your punishment is that you have to be President.

the first paragraph is not for the squeamish


The date is not going well when the first serious discussion you have is about whether he should get off the freeway, backtrack, and get back on so he can run over the half-dead cat you just saw squirming pitifully across the slow lane and put it out of its misery.

Greetings from the trenches! On Saturday's episode of "Indri Needs a Date", practical girl that I am, I decided to combine two social adventures: yet another first date culled from the Internet dating herd, and a visit to the Barn for the last-ever Hunter's Point presentation of the Lifesize Mousetrap, as part of the "County Unfair". Bicycle-powered carnival rides, deep-fried food, more dogs than you can throw a stick for, and Earring dressed up as a burlesque mouse shaking her stuffed tail to the strains of the aptly named Esmerelda Strange (hint: there really aren't three people in the band). How could we go wrong? Because know this: I will chew off my own foot before I go on another coffeeshop first date. I'm completely serious about this. Let me direct your attention to the fine 1994 Doris Dorrie film Keiner Liebt Mich (Nobody Loves Me); the banality of first dates in coffeeshops is a running theme.

About the rest of the date, after the cat-squishing discussion, there is not much to report. Let me just note that as we were leaving, I gave Earring a hug (a careful one, to avoid smearing her whiskers) and whispered "I'll be back later after I've shed this guy". He was nice enough, intelligent and strange-in-the-good-way and not emblematic of any of the classic Internet dating horror stories (ie, the old bait-and-switch, the gross misrepresentation, etc), but I wasn't feeling like the mouse for his trap, and it seemed mutual. So I went home and put on makeup and a different shirt so I could go dancing later, and then headed back out to the Barn.

I've mentioned the Barn before. It's where we built the set for the Undulation show, back in March; if you've ever driven past the giant headless horse on Hunter's Point Boulevard, you've been past the entrance. It's a great space: artists live and work there, the Mousetrap sits on the land in all its Rube Goldbergesque glory, there's plenty of open space for the usual chaos of dogs to run around finding dead things to play with. If you climb the hill behind the buildings you get a great view of the power station, the city, and what I believe is an EPA Superfund cleanup site, from an unusual vantage.

But I wasn't heading back for any of that. I was heading back because I'd noticed, as I tried to keep wind-blown tanbark out of my eyes and pitifully hold up my end of the conversation with Bachelor Number Three, that there were more cute men showing up as the day progressed. The families with kids were heading out, to be replaced by handsome hipsters. So... call me mercenary... but I go out socially so infrequently that I feel like I have to maximize my exposure time. Most of the time I spend outside of the house, I'm either surrounded by straight women, gay men, rich guests, or drooling, gibbering, street people, all of whom are of course off limits.

Which is how I got an education in wingman-fu.

Now, I can't tell which of these two fellas was supposed to be the wingman. I've run this past my mother already, and she's probably right, but you tell me.

There was the cute brunette at the bar who I was talking to about whether he should try the deep-fried Snicker's bar or not, and then there was his fast-talking friend, who explained that only a couple of his science grad school classmates were women, and he wasn't sure they were really women. I believe the phrase was, "geeks with tits". Charming. At one point, talking about his job, he also said that for what he was getting paid, he would be happy to "fist rats".

Yes.

That is exactly what he said. If anyone has a suggestion for how I can cross my legs any more tightly than I am just remembering the conversation, I am all ears.

Meanwhile, the brunette is casually referencing Vonnegut and European travel with his professor father while putting mustard on a deep-fried pickle spear for me. And I'm trying to figure out something that men have probably been trying to figure out for centuries. Millenia, even. How do I get this one away from the friend long enough to get the digits? Because I hadn't thought to bring a wingman (or wingwoman) of my own to distract the friend, or to casually ask for a card, or to make me look like less of a psycho; essentially, all the things you engage a wing for. And RatFister keeps looking like he's going to walk away for a minute, and I keep fingering the snap of my purse and thinking about sacrificing an index card from my hipster PDA (and by the way, I was doing this thing with the cards years ago, before the book told us to) to the cause here, but then he won't go away. Both men have mentioned that they're tired and need to go home; time is running out! And I'm not good at this! Eeeek!

Eventually, RatFister resolves the problem. He asks me if I'm carrying a card. I explain that no, I'm not. So he asks the brunette for one of his cards; I'll write my phone number on it, he says, and then you'll have all the information. As I'm silently exulting at this happy turn, one of my troupemates slides up behind and gooses me, making me squeak.

Do you want my number? RatFister pauses to ask, my pen in his hand.

Well, I really want his, I respond with a tilt of my head. But I'll take 'em both, why not? And now if you gentlemen will excuse me, I'm going to let you go so I can go find my friend and grab her ass back.

I don't know who I was channeling there. Really, I don't. That really is not characteristic.

So here's my question, men. Which was the wing? The cute one introducing me to his friend and making sure that the conversation included him, or the fearless foulmouthed one who tried (and failed) to get them my number, instead acquiescing to my having theirs?

i should be sorting papers

Maybe I just like this one because the results are set in wacky three-space. Hat tip to David.

the Prankster (39% dark, 21% spontaneous, 27% vulgar)

your humor style: CLEAN | COMPLEX | LIGHT Your humor has a slightly more intellectual or even conceptual slant to it. You're not pretentious at all, but you aren't into what some would call 'low humor'. This isn't to say you wouldn't laugh at a good dirty joke, but you'd definitely prefer something clever to something moist. You probably like well-thought-out pranks and/or spoofs and it's highly likely you've tried one of these things yourself. In a lot of ways, yours is the most entertaining type of humor. PEOPLE LIKE YOU: Conan O'Brian - Ashton Kutcher

My test tracked 3 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 50% on dark You scored higher than 0% on spontaneous You scored higher than 33% on vulgar

Link: The 3 Variable Funny Test written by jason_bateman on Ok Cupid

the mousetrap's last showing in hunter's point



Story later.

go grannies

"Don't bother the recruiters, ladies, they're just doing their jobs."

I love it that they tried to sign up. Grannies on the front lines! That would change the face of war a lot, wouldn't it?

the story of chloe and john

She was the last woman I would expect to talk to, with her extravagantly sprayed curls the size of oranges and a white satin zip-up jacket decorated with winning poker hands picked out in sequins. But it was a long flight, we were in a two-across, and she had gum and I didn't. And we hit it off in that way women have that so confounds men; we were exchanging very personal stuff before the fasten seat belts sign had been turned off.

Here is the story she told me.

Chloe was in a softball league when she met John. And she took an immediate dislike to him. Which was a bit of a problem, since he was quite taken with her, and kept asking her out. To make things worse, Chloe's mother and friends all liked him and thought she was a nut for saying no. It got so bad, her mother and friends nagging her about this decent, funny, guy, that Chloe considered joining a different league if that's what it would take to resolve the issue.

I'll tell you what, said her best friend. I'll make you a deal. You sit down and make a list. On one side, put everything you dislike about him. On the other, everything you find admirable. If the "no" list is longer than the "yes", I will never pester you to date him again, and I'll get the word out to everyone else.

And if the yes list is longer? asked Chloe, knowing that it wouldn't be.

If the yes list is longer, you have to go out with him the next time he asks, her friend responded. Only once, but you have to do it.

That seems fair, said Chloe, and she sat down with a sheet of paper and a pen.

You see where this is going, right? There's Chloe with her pen...and much of what is coming out of it is positive. Too much. She's losing the bet. Sure he's goofy and she's not sure about that, but he's kind-hearted too. Is he clueless or committed? His pursuit could suggest either. And so on.

She looks at her list, and she calls her friend. And her friend, who I believe was getting a kickback from John, lets him know that the iron is hot; time to strike.

They go out, to a carnival or an amusement park or something like that. Something with a merry-go-round. They have a phenomenal time. A year later, he takes her back to the same merry-go-round, even though it's raining and she's being cranky about it, and he goes to one knee in front of her painted wood horse and proposes. Five years later she's on a plane next to me, showing me the ring and telling me that you just never know.

Here's another one. I've known both of these people directly for a few years. Starboard and Teacup built a business together. They'd met at a previous job and realized they had a similar vision for how such a business should run, so they both quit and set out to do it their way. They invested in a space, equipment, employees; they put in long hours and late nights and argued ferociously and at length. The two of you would be good as a couple, people would tease them. We're good as BUSINESS PARTNERS, Teacup would flare, and shake her head at the idea of dating Starboard.

Then there came a point where things got difficult between them. Teacup noticed that Starboard would barely talk to her on the days she was supposed to meet a date after work, and their working relationship was disintegrating. At a loss for what else to do, she suggested they see a relationship counselor.

How many of us learn that someone loves us for the first time on the counselor's couch? Because that of course was the problem; Starboard had fallen, well, ass over teakettle for Teacup. And it was mutual. They were married within months, and she gave birth on a date that suggested they'd gotten pregnant on the dance floor at the reception. Which seems likely, from the way they were dancing together; I have a vague recollection. Very vague. I go to so few weddings as a guest that I'd overdone it on the champagne and forewent dancing for a nap in my rental car.

The part of this story I like is Teacup giving me relationship advice, the day she told me they were getting married. E had just dumped me because he "wasn't feeling it," and I was bemoaning the fact that he wasn't giving us more of a chance. Well, I think he's right, she told me as gently as she could. When you meet the one, you just know. That's how it was for us, she added, batting her pale eyelashes across the room at her True Beloved.

I bit my tongue. It wasn't worth pointing out, right in that moment, that she had known Starboard for two and a half years before she just knew he was the one.

Just kept that to myself.

My telling these stories tonight is not actually related to the Berlin Situation, but rather to the fact that I just got home from a blind date. And I'm thinking about the stories we tell ourselves--and each other--about how you know whether someone is "the one" or not. Or whether they have that potential. Or whether they have the potential to have the potential.

It's so confusing! Over time there have been a few people who I knew, all the way to my hairy little toes, were "the one" I could and would be with until I was an indeterminate mass of wrinkles and white hair.

The astute observer notes that I am for all intents and purposes single. And two of those gentlemen are married. They were the one, all right, just not my one.

I'm not making any particular point tonight, beyond Chloe's: you just never know. I'm not especially sad, or ecstatic, or much of anything besides tired. But I think some ice cream is in order before I turn in.

drive-by crafting


I had this idea as I was falling asleep last night, and somehow managed to retain it through a night of interesting dreams. I've been having more luck remembering my dreams lately, but that is neither here nor there. No, I am feeling inclined to a random act of art-making, and I need help.

Here's the idea. I have a batch of pre-stamped blank postcards I bought last year with a project in mind that never happened, and Burning Man gift-making energy I have to put to use somehow since I'm not going to the playa this year. You have a friend who might appreciate a strange little mail-art collage from someone they've never met. Someone needs cheering up? A little silliness? Proof that occasionally the mailbox reveals something more than advertising circulars and bills?

E-mail me (button's at the right) with your friend's name and snailmail address (I'll dispose safely of the latter as soon as the card is mailed; I'm not harvesting!) and I'll make them a postcard with some of the stuff I have lying around here and a note that you were thinking of them. Readers I don't know as welcome to participate as those I do.

You'll be doing me a favor. Give me an excuse to break out the glue stick.

a piece of good news on the tiger front

Just a stripy tidbit while I finish waking up.

the pudding variations



An overlooked detail of my taxation has got me in a (very) minor panic, and yesterday I agreed to take several more catering gigs through the end of the year. Careful readers and friends will note that I've said a million times that I have to stop catering; well yes. I do. But not just yet, apparently. I can't burn my tux yet. Although the tux shirt I wore tonight is ready to be retired. It's got a mysterious new stain, and has gotten too thin to wear without a bra. Which in my case means: has gotten too thin to be worn to work, period. Perhaps I should save it for the next time I plan to attend a party as a guest and get loaded and do my best dissipated playboy impression--hang an untied bow tie around my neck, see if I can get pretty girls to sit on my knee, etc. Stranger things have been known to happen.

Anyway. Tonight was a gala for the professional organization of event planners, so you can imagine what it was like. People flooding into the dining room once it opened and immediately snapping pictures of all the floral arrangements and noting the designers who had provided them, holding forth on wine regions, talking to their neighbors about whether the lemon in the salad dressing overpowered the wine, speculating on how much it cost to rent the space we were in. Best behavior time for us; our employer had fought to be the company that provided the service (four different caterers provided the food--one for each course) and we had to know our stuff. So: the pinot noir is "silky", and the sauvignon blanc is from the first people in New Zealand to make sauvignon blanc. Don't you feel educated? Six years of catering and I am as basically ignorant of wine as I was to begin with, but I can sure talk the talk.

We were on our best behavior, and largely so were the guests--until the dancing started. I was in the staff room, wolfing down lamb (ha, okay, that was unintentional but I'll take it) and some chocolate mousse thing (excuse me, a bombe--I believe that is pronounced byeuuuuuhm) with serious dried fruit involvement off a styrofoam plate, and our salesperson Melon came in.

Slick, she said to the guy who was managing, S and J [two of our waiters] are out dancing.

What? Slick asked, clutching his manager's book tighter, his eyes darkening behind his fashionable rectangular frames.

It's okay, Melon explained. I gave them permission. Two of the female guests grabbed them. They said they had a shortage of boys on the floor and needed guys to dance with.

I nearly snorted bombe out of my nose.

groan

Bush has chosen.

Why Sandra? Why? Couldn't we have plastinated you or something so you could serve another few years until we could get the bozo out of office?

think your first day of work was hard?

Try being the acting mayor of San Diego.

my god, i'm quoting kushner

note: I'm going through an emotional patch right now that I don't feel like sharing. So I'm going to start emptying the draft archives. This is about a month old.

Don't think for a minute that I've really read The Brothers Karamazov; I'm not that with it. But I'm re-reading the section entitled The Grand Inquisitor, a story Ivan tells his brother Alyosha, for work. Which is a fine thing to do before reading Kushner's Only We Who Guard the Mystery Shall Be Unhappy, an anti-war play based on the fact that Laura Bush claims The Grand Inquisitor as her favorite piece of writing.

Sometimes when his hands are on me I say to my lonesome self, "Laura Welch, this is not The Dread Spirit who is touching you, it's just dear, dear Fyodor Mikhailovich Dostoyevsky," and he puts his whiskery mouth close to my ear and he hisses, "Sinner!" He knows, he's the only one who knows what that word means! SINNER! I like children! I really, really do! 600,000? Jesus Christ. A year from now, in what pit of hell will I awake!? I was a Democrat when I was a girl! This is what great literature can do! He weeps as he rattles me. I never shall be chaste except he ravish me. And I am rattled till my screws come loose, I am rattled like, like...the way, when I am in a mood, I attack and scour a sooty pot.

Check out The Nation for the whole scene.

bossing around pretty girls



I've been with the troupe for a year and a half now in some form or another, and I'm still surprised every time I hear one of us refer to the others as "girls". Chalk it up to years and years of rigorous feminist training. But last night I used it myself--they were "dancers" to everyone else, or "my dancers"--and "girls" within the group.

Come on, pretty girls! I called out when it was time to lead them to the area in the wings where they would await their cue (wings in this case being an area behind a screen; we were out in a parking lot). Obediently they fell in behind me and followed, like heavily ornamented ducklings, their bracelets and beads clinking, the mirrors on their veils and choli tops reflecting scraps of fire and neon. Up front in stage manager blacks I was really proud of them, proud of all the work they'd done to create a new piece, using a new movement vocabulary one of our number brought back from five months of studying with Rajasthani Gypsies in India.

The Crucible crowd, mostly Burners, are familiar with us. But they were probably braced for something quite different than what we had in mind. I know what's coming and y'all don't I thought at the audience as I swung back to the fueling area to help my fire techs bring out the torches, fire paste, wet blankets in a bucket, swords. On stage, Capacitor's crew were sweeping away the clumps of dried oatmeal their dancers had shed (supposed to look like mud on their largely-naked bodies; poor things had been shivering miserably in the green room tent as they waited to go on, unable to put on coats for fear of disturbing their cereal). We waited until all the Quaker's was cleared away and then laid out the props, with dancers hissing directions from the stage right stairs, no, closer to the back, we need more room, can you lay out the wet washcloths flat, put this stick under the cauldron, okay? And then we backed off, the first three dancers took the stage, D cued the music, and they were off.

What was it like? God. Not quite like standing in the wings at Undulation waiting to go on myself. Standing there with a wet towel over my arm, watching the hems of flying skirts and holding my breath when it looked like the ring of fire wasn't going to light properly, I wished I was onstage and not off. But I could feel that I was grinning like a maniac, too; look at how beautiful they are, they're doing such a great job, I can't believe they--we!--pulled this together in three weeks, maybe next time we do this piece, I'll be in it, no S don't spin so close to the fire pot. I could see Earring's boyfriend on the other side of the stage with his own towel; I couldn't tell if Wasabi's boyfriend was on the downstage fire safety post and worried about that for a minute, but Rig's lights were in my eyes so I figured I just wasn't seeing him.

The first time I ever went to a Crucible event, a guy lit himself on fire and crashed through a giant sheet of paper on a zip line. But those were the old days, and now you have to have a whole long back-and-forth beforehand with the event's Fire Safety Coordinator about what you're doing and how, and this was my first SM gig with the troupe and and and...stage managing is cat-herding under the best of circumstances. That hasn't changed at all since I was in school. But we got everything to where it needed to be, and the dancers got where they needed to be, and I was so relieved and happy afterwards that I had to drive around the city in my rental for another half-hour before I went home, listening to the radio at full-blast and singing along really badly.

Yes, if you were at a light in San Francisco late last night and there was someone seriously traffic-dancing near you in a Sentra with Dollar Rent-A-Car plates, chances are excellent it was me.

The next time, I plan to be traffic-dancing in full makeup, if you catch me.

why don't you just grow them in tanks?

Does this give anyone else the creeps? Note on the second page how the nanny, an older and tired-looking woman, is kneeling at "Alpha Mom"'s feet. Deeply unsettling.

hat tip to RebelDad

the crucible show was a smashing success



Nobody caught on fire who wasn't supposed to, the dancers did a beautiful job, and I now have half a dozen large unopened bottles of spring water and half a package of Trader Joe's cocoa almonds to amuse me. I will write more about this later; right now the post-performance euphoria is swiftly giving way to breathtaking exhaustion.

edit: More work by the creators of these beautiful, elaborate, and completely-obscured-here wings at Ankoku-Jin and Total Fucking Armageddon. And now I'm not editing this post any more.

nurse toddy to the rescue

I think this is hilarious, and I'm on deadline anyway. So enjoy Toddy trying to save his boyfriend's ear--over the phone.

panda porn

In the real and figurative senses this morning, but all work-safe. The news that Mei Mei--probably one of the most famous pandas in the world--has died has led me on a whirlwind swing through the BBC archives. I'm not completely awake yet--I tended bar at a legislative function in Sacramento last night--please bear (ha ha) with my scatteredness.

Okay. So it's sad that Mei Mei has died, but she was the equivalent of 108 human years old, and her keepers estimate that she lived quite a bit longer than most giant pandas. And I'm including the link because there's also a photo of newborn giant pandas, which are a lot smaller than I expected, and look nothing like what they will become.

Where do pandas come from? Concerned that Hua Mei, raised in captivity, might not know what to do when it was time to get down with a guy panda, keepers showed her films of panda sex. Giant pandas only mate for three or four days a year, so it's not like there's a lot of time to figure it out, and pandas in captivity are much less interested in sex than wild ones (which should surprise no-one). This seems to have worked with some male pandas. The article doesn't answer any of my questions about whether there are fluffers in panda porn, or if the stars shave, but you can just ignore my gutter mind and go on to the next bits, which all feature babies--baby red pandas. Speaking of which, stepping to another Brit for a moment, here's Pik on the subject of red pandas.

Where do the pandas get the energy for all this cavorting? Well, researchers have developed special energy biscuits (remember that this is the Beeb, so that may mean what us Yanks think of as "cookies") packed with vitamins, minerals, and fiber. I guess they administer the Viagra separately; these biscuits aren't that comprehensive. I love the detail that to keep from confusing the pandas, the biscuits are bamboo-shaped. Which leads me to wonder if they have anything stamped on them, like human cookies: a little schoolboy, a logo, elves, what-have-you.

Article claims they're delicious, and I'm reminded of something that always bothered me as a child about dog biscuits: are there human tasters on these things? When I was a kid my best friend always snacked on the Milk Bones when she came to her house, but she could never get me to try one. But a bamboo-shaped panda biscuit? Hmm.

calling hollywood

A friend posted this, and I must share it...shades of the Dark Crystal. Seriously.

surprise!

We have a performance this Friday night at the Crucible, and I'm our stage manager. So last night during rehearsal I stood in (danced in?) for a woman who was home recovering from having her wisdom teeth pulled, and it was great fun. I got to balance a big water bottle on my head and pretend it was full of fire while two women circled around pointing at me with their swords. Doesn't that sound like fun to you?

Anyway, part of what's amusing me here is that I don't think anyone in the troupe realized that I can balance things on my head. I've been struggling along so much for so long; I fantasize that behind my back they're shaking their heads at how hopeless I am at things like lead-and-follow (I can follow, but my leading is still weak). So when they asked me to stand in for A, that's pretty much what I think they thought I was going to do: stand. Be a placeholder. But I danced her part, even though I never had before, and while I wasn't great, I was on beat. And balancing--they were very surprised when I came back with that bottle on my head, let me tell you. ha HA!

Of course, it was the night Jill wasn't there to see it. Ah well.

rove must go down

Miniver points us to this Newsweek article confirming that Karl Rove was the source who leaked Valerie Plame's name to Matt Cooper. This is disgusting, but at the same time... it is so beautiful seeing that self-righteous bastard's ass in a sling. Or at least, one can hope: there is the small matter of nobody in the Bush administration having to answer to the law (cough cough DickCheneyEnron cough cough).

Hopefully we are about to see that change.

edit: I had completely forgotten that Bush said he would fire anyone in the White House responsible for the Plame leak "at a minimum". I'm not sure what "maximum" might be; perhaps an all-expenses paid to Gitmo? But anyway. Both Bush and his press secretary McClellan have been going on about how Rove wasn't the leak, and how the guilty will be punished, and so forth.

Here's our chance to remind them. Move On has a petition in play. I never email forward these things to my friends because they all get them too, and I imagine I'll be deleting copy after copy this morning, but if you want to sign, go for it.

being contrary

So match.com threw up a banner over something I was looking at a few days ago, and I thought, what the hell, I'll go take a look-see, see if anyone I know is advertising for luv. I was on match for a brief stint, a few years ago--just before I met E, actually--I don't see anything wrong with using the services. Two of the dearest people in my life, after all, came to me through Friendster.

The really fun thing, of course, is doing a search of people like you. In my case, that means checking out the women in my cohort. Several of whom write that they are "enjoying everything the Bay Area has to offer." The men say it too.

Stay with me for a minute here. Would anyone dare to write, "hating everything the Bay Area has to offer"? I mean, it's like there's a formula, and if you stray, well, no cookie for you. The larger idea being that you have to represent yourself as cheerful, fun-loving, active, fit, adventurous (but not too adventurous, if you follow me), bright-eyed and bushy-tailed alla damn time.

The very thought exhausts me. Don't get me wrong. I love fun. But I also love taking naps, a lot, and I don't see anyone else rhapsodizing about taking a bit of a lie-down. I might just go do that now, actually. The fog's coming in, the kids upstairs only have the television up to three-quarters-blaring, the linens are freshly laundered. Mmm-mm.

I guess real Matchsters haven't got the time for naps...they're too busy Enjoying Everything!

i never would have worked for georgia o'keefe

She felt that models were too expensive. So instead she painted flowers. And swore they didn't mean what everyone said they did.



Me, I appreciate their habit of sitting still.

a few new things up at flickr

I am worn out from writing this week. Time for pictures now.

someday i'll start acting my age

And this sort of thing will no longer seem like my idea of a good time.

What a sad thought that is.

courtesy of my.bicycle

he enjoyed the first date so much he doesn't want to go out with me again

This is a new one on me. Sigh. Sometimes I wonder how much longer I will be able to remain open and uncynical in dating men. For that matter, sometimes I wonder why I date men at all. I do have an option, as my first girlfriend liked pointing out, repeatedly. And I do like girls.

Just not as much as boys. God help me.

Oh, and my eyelids are sunburned. I'm an idiot. One of these years, I'll make it to the San Francisco Mime Troupe show with everything in place. I'll be in time to get a good spot, carrying a good blanket, properly equipped with food/water/sunblock. This year I managed a good spot, or what would have been a good spot if there weren't bozos with big hats right in front of us. And I had water and sunblock (although obviously I didn't go as far with the latter as I needed to.) My friends had chips and cheese puffs and strawberries. Getting closer. Saw Slice there, and we had a nice little chat. He's going back to school for his teaching certificate, blah blah, they're not pregnant yet, blah blah, yes he still has my mosquito net (we broke up four years ago), it's in a bag.

I'm taking my sunburn to bed now. In the morning I see the dentist. This week is just, man, starting out fabulous.

another reason to lift the embargo

I understand that Cuba is not all that; dissent is not tolerated, etc. etc. But check out this article about Cuba reaching out to Ukrainian children affected by Chernobyl. When nobody else did. At a cost Cuba won't reveal.

i can't even remember phone numbers

This is just awesome. There's a new record for reciting pi. And the way the BBC writes about it is unexpectedly witty, in a dry sort of way.

because landlocked places are hell



Had one of my moments tonight, the kind that make me wonder if I'm nuts, but not as fierce, as high and thin, as some in the past. Could be PMS, could be restlessness. It's a good thing I no longer have a car, because if I did I'd be out in it driving around. Getting myself even more worked up. Out at Ocean Beach staring at the dark water and getting all existential. Instead I stayed in the Mission after Nomad's birthday dinner, trying to find a place to land, coffeeshops closed, wandering through bookstores, sitting with Hans the cat in my lap for a while at Abandoned Planet, admiring the boy behind the counter at Adobe, with his high hair. Feeling shy, which is...uncharacteristic. I bought an Iris Murdoch novel in honor of MonkeyScientist, and Nin's “Little Birds” in honor of me, and eavesdropped on a Russian fella who was apparently trying to hypnotize a boy I thought might be gay.

The Russian guy had hair like mine, including the length—actually longer, so more like AX's--and a humongous black shearling-looking hat with a silver brooch. A ring on each finger and a big red shirt and a rosary of amber beads. Five foods, he intoned, holding up one hand and staring hard into the other man's eyes. Five liquids. He interlaced his fingers. Three meals, he continued, here, here, and here, mental, physical, spiritual and now he was touching the yellow-shirted boy with the tips of his interlaced fingers, forehead, chest. Behind them, people were sitting around as though there had been a reading, or a party, and I'd missed it. The aisles at Adobe are so narrow and so packed with books you can barely walk one abreast, let alone two. Near the counter, a selection of spray bottles, a bowl of dry cat food, a bowl of wet, but no cat to be seen.

There were copies of Watchword 7 for sale at the counter. That's good, you should buy it, said High Hair. I thumbed through it. Saw a name I recognized on a prose poemy thing. Checked the bio, and yes, it was my old housemate, the gentle haiku writer with back pain so debilitating he was on disability. It was good to see that he was experimenting with a new form, and I started to feel a little more cheerful. But I couldn't stand around any more without looking like a dweeb, so I headed over to the 16th Street BART station.

Where, wonder of wonders, there was an open mic going on. Right there in the plaza, a space I usually move through as fast as possible so I don't get my feet peed on. Hipsters sitting around on the gum-plastered concrete drinking out of paper-bagged bottles, and a guy with a drum kit, and a white guy rapping backed by a stand-up bass and a violin. It was amazing. Here are some of the notes I took at the scene:

Guy stands up and does some spoken word about how much he loves the ocean, because landlocked places are hell. Some of the group know the piece and chant that line along with him. He's followed by a very leggy man who talks about going to Planned Parenthood for an STD check, and getting a swab up his urethra for a chlamydia screen—and then learning from a friend that you can pee in a cup for that now. So guys, he tells the group, if your girlfriend tells you to go get tested tomorrow, hand them a mason jar full of piss and say, 'why don't you drop that off when you go by there?'

A homeless-looking woman borrows a guitar from the handsome dark-haired guy who sang before her. She levers herself awkwardly to the ground, legs straight as a Barbie, and begins strumming simple, repetitive chords. Green plaid button-down over a black shirt with a line of pink hearts across the breasts. Lumpy face, lumpy brown hair, gym shoes. And then she cuts loose with this voice, this great voice, the voice Joplin would have had had she lived, but not quite as harsh, not as acidic. She sings It takes a whole lot of medicine to pretend I'm someone and the crowd falls silent. She's amazing. When she's done, two men help her up and she limps off into the dark. Everything seems a little shallow after her. Good, but shallow.

A man begins some stand-up about his lesbian ex-wife. Bitter, but funny in places. He says he hates going back to dating because I have to go back to faking an interest in astrology, which gets a good response. He says he likes watching “Blue's Clues” with his two daughters because he always guesses the clues first. Also mentions later that he likes to give them a little coffee and sugar just before he returns them to their mom. My problem is that I'm attracted to tough women with tattoos who like to spit, wrestle, and roll their own tampons. Then he goes off on how if he were a woman, he'd be a lesbian, because men are ugly. Very funny bit about testicles--wrinkly reptilian sacs with hair dangling off them. If that's not ugly, he rants, ugly has no meaning.

And a big burly inked guy named Jake, who borrowed his girlfriend's sketchbook and my purloined Nordstrom's pencil to whip out a poem, reads it aloud to the group while it's still hot from the oven. A black guy with crutches and dreds and a bottle of gin swings into the center while the bassist and a guitarist are singing about roommates and pot, and starts improvising right along—mostly I'm black and I'm proud, over and over, but still, he's on beat. The girl sitting next to me, who wears a fake tiara in honor of her birthday, gets up to sing something bluesy and good, swaying a bit drunkenly. Then the group breaks up and heads to Zeitgeist.

Me, I headed home. Got the last train, too.

opski

I didn't forget, MonkeyScientist. But I think they changed your truck.



Eventually I will calm down with the images. Hopefully before I get into some of the am I still in art school? folders. But as Eric notes at Movin' Out, it is so wonderful to not have to go through the upload-to-a-separate-place contortions anymore.

let's jitterbug! c'mon!

Here we have a San Francisco playwright blogging nothing but overheard dialogue. And it's freaking brilliant.

in honor of snufkina, who got a job

And thus will probably not be blogging so often, or hanging out with molluscs, let me present:



You can do it, girl. You'll find the fun coworkers, you'll do a great job, and in six months you can always come back to the slothful underemployed life and get back to your snail husbandry.

the secret word is martini

Blogger can finally handle images on its own. So, apropos of nothing, here are some German ducklings.



My connection's been wonky today, and so for that matter have I, so don't expect too much in the way of coherence.

Today was actually not that bad, but the past couple of weeks have been very emotionally intense. I've been doing some deep thinking into the question of whether I will have my own children or not. I've been spending an awful lot of time alone. And then this Saturday I worked a party that was really fun (as is typical right after I've posted about how much I hate catering, natch) but completely draining; I spent Sunday eating pudding, doing laundry, and playing "Bookworm" on Pogo, which I do not, repeat do not, recommend to anyone who is hoping to Get Something Done. I totally missed the Pride parade and celebration, which was going on a scant four blocks from my apartment. Bailed on a show that I would have been seeing for pleasure, not work. Didn't get the sample chapter finished for my book proposal. I'm pretty sure I brushed my teeth, but that and having clean clothing is about all I accomplished.

It's tricky, being freelance and/or on-call. Because I'm as likely to work a Saturday as a Monday (more so, actually), because I have to be available to model or cater or do interviews whenever other people are free or want to have a party, because I do an increasing amount of my work from home, it's hard to set clear boundaries. They tell you this, when you say you want to work from home, but it's hard to really absorb what that means. I'm starting to understand why people find ways to hide their desks from view. I wake up, and if I've slept on my right side, the gaping black hole that is my computer is the first thing I see.

For a while a couple of years ago, I made a point of having a sabbath. Obviously Friday night through Saturday night didn't work, so I chose Wednesday as my day off and did my best to stick with it. Wouldn't take work on that day, wouldn't write anything for money, etc. I don't know why I stopped doing that, but I'm starting to think it was one of the better ideas to creep from my flea-bitten grey matter.

This weekend's celebrity sighting: a certain star of a Saturday morning television show about an overgrown boy in a bow tie whose career nosedived when he was busted for doing something so minor (note: he was not doing a minor, he was doing something minor) it boggles the imagination. He was a friend of the host, it was a private party in a beautiful new Moorish-styled home in Marin, and I was sort of hoping for at least a moment of the famous squeaky voice. But no such; he was better behaved than all the other guests, many of whom were draped over my bar by the end of the night saying virtually unintelligible things to each other about Eckhart Tolle and how much they loved each other, man.

My hero, who was wearing jeans and blue trainers, got champagne for the people he was talking to and ginger ale for himself and laughed kindly at my feeble attempts to amuse him with my martini shaker. My co-worker Hound told me that as he gets older, he starts to appreciate small breasts more. I believe he used the word "conoissuer". I taught one Spanish-speaking gentleman the names of several different drinks: Cosmopolitan, Madras, Screwdriver. A woman gave me a twenty-dollar tip. A good night.

oh, and


Happy Gay Pride Day, everyone.

stray tuexedos, umounted ketubah, confused caterer, and all

Best of luck to David and Marisa, who are tying the knot right now in Indiana.

that daisy, she shore is somethin'

Not my story to tell, but Thread's, about watching The Dukes of Hazzard with her granddad. But in their honor, and because I am a diligent researcher who turns up some odd things, I thought I'd share this page about Catherine Bach, the first Miss Duke.

In one of the photos, her shirt's wet. Real wet. If you like that sort of thing.

people keep having birthdays!

Today is AX's, so happy birthday to him. But remember AX, whatever happens, I will always be older than you are.

another sign

I just got a call from the staffing fella at my caterer, asking if I minded being moved from one party to another this Saturday. I said fine, so he sent me an email with the details, which is how I learned that a person I never saw as manager material is going to be managing.

I am really conflicted about this. On the one hand, I really don't want to work under this person (although it won't be direct; I'm bartending, so technically I'll be under someone else) and feel like I need to confront my supervisor about why I've barely been tapped to manage in the past year and a half. Don't tell me that the weekend is super-busy, with parties everywhere, and then have me in a non-management position under a newbie. I understand that there were some issues about my management style (namely, I was behaving like the male managers), but I really feel a lot of my shortness was related to my father being sick. When I came back after his death, I was a lot different on the few parties I did manage, and got positive feedback from both clients and staff. So I believe the issue has been addressed. And if I'm going to cater, I would prefer to manage. Not just because the money's better, although of course that's a factor, but because without the challenge of managing, catering is so damn unfulfilling.

On the other hand. I've been whining and complaining about catering for so long now, and using how great it felt to get and finish the museum project as a goad to get myself actively seeking more writing work and moving away from the Sisterhood of the Tray. The couple of days I spent in LA meeting with my researcher and the video guy, looking at the artifacts, and being put up in a hotel and treated like a professional felt a lot more like what my life is supposed to be than sitting on an overturned milk crate behind the dinner tent, scarfing down cold food and wondering how much longer I can get away with not buying another pair of sensible black waitress shoes.

So I can be huffy and call my supervisor and remind her that she said she'd "keep me in mind" (right), or I can take this as another sign that it is past time for me to move on. I'm scheduled to work an average of one job a week through October, and I haven't taken anything after that. Maybe I find a way to emotionally detach from the catering altogether--do the jobs I've agreed to take with the best grace I can muster, bank the money, and not let it touch me.

what i want for my birthday

Cillian Murphy. With glasses on.

I am supposed to be working here, but one thing has led to another, and I have discovered some amazing things. Like this: Alan Cumming will not be back in X-Men 3 as Nightcrawler. Damn. He was my favorite thing about that movie. He is, apparently, too busy marketing his new fragrance Cumming. It's got, lemmeseehere, burnt rubber, peat moss, mud, whiskey, three kinds of tobacco, pepper, white truffle oil...I honestly thought it was a joke at first. His Web site, well, I can't even do this justice...his site is loaded with innuendo, based on his name...man's very...sex-positive. Let's just leave it at that.

He's still a hero of mine, even if he consented to be in the second Mask movie. After all, I consented to work on the first one, I can't exactly throw stones.

And Nicolas Cage had an encounter with a cobra that made him start eating smaller portions and work out more. As he prepared to make Ghost Rider. Which I'm hoping will take the taste of Honeymoon in Vegas out of my mouth.

Oh, and Joss Whedon has promised not to do anything "funny" to Wonder Woman in the script he's writing. Hm. Funnier than what everyone else has done to her? I found it interesting that one writer from the comic series didn't understand a previous issue that had shown her at different ages. He thought the four manifestations (ie Wonder Tot) were discrete characters, and plotted accordingly. So WW's housecleaning during the Crisis on Infinite Earths was perhaps a little bloodier than that of some of her colleagues. And I'm not going to touch the fact that WW's creator had a real thing about bondage, except to note that if you're going to get tied up with your own damn magic lasso all the time, maybe you should consider leaving it at home before you head out to do battle.

I'm just saying.

somebody please tell me why they felt they had to do this

The BBC reports that a brain scan can reveal whether a woman is faking orgasm or not.

Maybe it's just me, but I feel like researchers have been fixated on orgasm lately. Here's another recent study whose authors are suggesting that a) a woman's orgasmic capability is genetic and b) women who have a harder time orgasming are in fact just pickier about their partners, for biological selection reasons.

Yawn.

But this most recent one tickles me (excuse the pun). They had one member of each heterosexual couple (I am not, not, not going to get into why I think that part is stupid) stimulate the other to orgasm. The receiver had their head in a scanner. Then the partners would switch. When they asked women to fake orgasm, the results were different from their "real" orgasms.

Do I need to point out the problem with the methodology here?

How do we know that all of the "real" orgasms were? I mean, come on. I'm betting some of these couples had been together for a while...and the woman had gotten used to the fact that her partner wasn't really working the right spot...and had gotten into the habit of faking anyway. Sure they darkened the room and "shut out all the noise distractions", but these are still not ideal conditions for some women, socks or no socks (although that piece of the research is interesting). And I can see where a woman might be inclined to fake, if she were already in the habit and getting tired of having her head in the machine and wondering if there were enough coins in the meter and wanting to "perform" for the researchers and so on; and now would really not be the time to admit to her partner of however long that he hasn't actually been doing it right for quite some time...

I'm not saying anything against men here. Really I'm not. I'm just noting that if the numbers are right and a whopping seventy percent of all women admit to having faked at some point or another with a partner, this methodology is flawed. Better, I think, to have the women pleasuring themselves.

And what came of all this (sorry again, I can't seem to stop myself)? Professor Gert Holstege saying: "...[I]f you are fearful, it is very hard to have sex. It's very hard to let go."

How much money went into this? Haven't women been saying something rather like this for, oh, thousands of years? And now it's real because there's science behind it? Oh please.

Some advice from Professor Holstege, free: men should know that "when you want to make love to a woman, you must give her the feeling of being protected."

And here I was holding out for the feeling of having a decent breakfast rustled up for me afterwards.

actually sort of cute

But by god, do not even think of bidding on this for me.

Via Boing Boing.

a good reason to have lads in pubs

Happy Monday.

same thing as last year

when no one is forgotten and nothing goes to waste
when sadness turns to laughter when anger's defaced
you'll start to know the way I feel about you

when weakness turns to power when evil turns to good
when the helpless are remembered by those who never would
you start to know the way I feel about you

and if I could, I'd run out into the street and I'd scream to everyone I'd meet
that I loved you more than words could say
and that I loved you more than life this father's day

when caring is exalted when kindness knows no bounds
when integrity comes easy when love is all around
you'll start to know the way I feel about you

and if I could, I'd run out into the world and tell every boy and girl to love
before love takes itself away
just like I'm lovin you this father's day

Peter Himmelman, This Father's Day, off the 1986 album of the same name.

If you still have a dad...call him.

i love the smell of outrage in the morning

Did everyone else know that we have been using napalm in Iraq? During 2003's Operation Iraqi Freedom? And that we lied to the British about it? Am I the only one who didn't know?

When the British asked--it's important they know these things, because as well as being our partners in this ill-conceived war, they are signatories to the 1980 UN Convention on 'Weapons Which May Be Deemed To Be Excessively Injurious Or To Have Indiscriminate Effects', which rules out the use of napalm--they were told no, no napalm. Slippery. Because MK-77 isn't the napalm of Vietnam and Korea: gasoline, benzene and polystyrene. No. It's kerosene-based jet fuel and polystyrene. It acts exactly like classic napalm--in fact, it's harder to put out, once ignited. It sticks and burns.

MK-77 is currently the only incendiary in the U.S. arsenal. For some reason, I didn't realize that "firebomb" translates to "napalm." Maybe I thought we were using nice clean firebombs that aren't full of gel that sticks to structures--and people. I will spare you the photo of Kim Phuc running naked and burning from her village in Vietnam. I know you've seen it.

This sickens me so much I can barely write about it. The lies are fucking piling up around us. The government lied to us about why we were going to war. They lied to the British about how. Blair and his people, even after finding out they had been lied to, continued to cover for us.

Lying to start a war is an impeachable offense. If you are even half as ashamed of our behavior in Iraq as I am, consider bringing it to your representative.

the project

Some of you have expressed curiosity at what I could possibly be doing that takes precedence over long, self-indulgent blog posts. Well, now that I'm done with it, I figure I can tell. There were some moments where I thought I wasn't going to pull it off, and how bad would that have been? You would all be down at a little museum in Southern California straining to hear my turns of phrase in the audio tour, and they wouldn't be there!

Not to say that they are now, either. Writing interpretive stuff for museums has proven to be very different from anything else I've done so far. Trying to be completely accurate, clear, and understandable by fourth-graders...wow. A great exercise in editing oneself, let me tell you. I use a lot of modifiers, ordinarily, and boy do they sound prissy when you've got two minutes to tell a five-minute story and need to cut, cut, cut.

SoCal needed a new reservoir, as emergency back-up. So the water district found themselves a nice four-and-half-mile-long valley, with mountains to the north and south. Dug a big hole in it, dammed the ends, piped in billions of gallons of the Colorado River and la voila, Diamond Valley Lake. Just to make it more appealing, they dumped in a bunch of fish, too, and built some parking lots large enough to accommodate trailers with boats.

You can't swim in it--no body contact, that's meant to be drinking water if need be--but you can catch fish in it. Don't talk to me about what fish do in water, I don't want to think about it.

While they were digging their big hole, exciting things were popping out of it. Bone things. Tusks. Remains of giant sloths, sloths that weighed as much as an SUV. Mastodons mammoths sabre-tooth cats dire wolves short-faced bears yesterday's camels (yes, camels started here and went east over the Bering land bridge, I didn't know that either) flat-headed peccaries Bison antiquus Bison latifrons small horses. 140 animal taxa all told. All the stuff they've been pulling out of the LaBrea Tar Pits for the past hundred years, but without the asphalt. Also archaeological things: proof that people had lived in the valley for at least nine thousand years, maybe longer.

So they decided, hey, let's build us a museum (excuse me, interpretive center) and stick all our tusks and things in there.

And I've been writing all the A/V scripts--things like a documentary-style film, and an interactive computer game, and a thing with a decomposing frog, and so on. The project was broken into six sections, and each one had anywhere from one to six pieces of writing associated with it, and just about each piece required something different. I've been sifting through hundreds of pages of transcribed interviews, ethnographic, archaeological, and geological reports, blueprints of exhibits.

I am so fortunate...I was talking to another writer friend the other night about how hard it is to find writing work that we feel good about doing. He copped to having once written a college essay for pay; I mentioned my wake-up-screaming fear that I'll find myself writing ad copy for a tobacco company. So this project has been really exciting. I got to buy a copy of Ice Age Mammals of North America: A Guide to the Big, the Hairy, and the Bizarre, which is such an awesome title, and write it off. I am telling kids about ancient critters, which I do here for free anyway, and why it was wrong that the Cahuilla were dragged to the missions for forced conversions, and how cool it is to grow up to be a scientist. I will get paid good money for having gleefully written about coprolites, putrefecation, and the archaeological importance of trash heaps.

My job rules. What was it I did before? Do I even want to remember?

I'm not sure when the museum opens. Not for a while, I think. Time enough to find a silly T-shirt with a mammoth or something on it to wear when I visit. Maybe a mammoth wearing reading glasses and a bathrobe, hunched over a laptop and eating cookies.

a meta moment

Show me the blogger who wears a tie while he types. Oops, wait a minute, I do know one of those. But I'm pleased by this, in part because there was this one guy at the focus group I just did who said there wasn't any need to be able to read blogs remotely. I don't pay attention to that shit, he grumbled.

Yeah, well, that shit is getting the Downing Street Memo looked at by Congress. Led, may I just crow for a moment, by a fellow Michiganian? Michigander? Whatever?

Like the way I invoke my childhood home when someone from there does something I appreciate, and am totally silent when another is a scary wackjob?

everything you need to know about the brothers k

The White Shoe Irregular pulls together the Amazon user reviews. My current favorite:

First of all let me say that if an author wants to sell books in this country, then use some american names for gosh sake! How in the H E double toothpicks am I suppossed to remember who's who? The fact is you can't. … If you want to read about crime and punishment, how's about a little grisham. But this guy fred dostoyefski is going to have to write a little bit more towards his intended audience. My advice to you Freddy if you read this: Russia went down with the Berlin wall, let's write some good old fashion mystery thrilllers!

But you should really go see for yourself.

time to go to the library!

The Patriot Act is getting defanged: the bit about the FBI being able to access our library and bookstore records has--pardon the inopportune phrase, but I'm excited--gone down in flames. Trust me, nobody is using the SFPL to learn "how to fly planes...put together biological weapons...put together chemical weapons, nuclear weapons". Because what people do there is sleep. And take sponge baths in the restrooms. And check out massive stacks of books with their kids. And watch videos.

And accumulate piles and piles of books to decorate the floor around the bed. Right now, mostly Cooking for Dummies type stuff, a novel, background on the Brothers Karamazov, and a book of Anna Akhmatova's poetry. That's me, terrorist in training.

getting amp'd

Spent the evening in an absurd pursuit; I participated in a focus group for this product, which is aimed at the "youth" market.

Yes, other than the market research people, I was in fact the oldest person in the room. I had to eat a lot of M&M's out of the bowl to keep up with the whippersnappers.

I did my part, though, to represent what oldsters like: when they asked us to rate which magazines we'd be like to be able to read on our cell phones, I zipped past People and Vogue and wrote in The Economist. I had to bypass the "television" section altogether because I had no idea what's on any of the channels; other than visits home, I haven't lived with a TV in...lemme see...fifteen years now. At least. I also wrote in "flamenco music" and "BBC" in the appropriate places.

I'm sure they're scratching their heads back at Amp'd HQ. But, you know, I'm still in that cohort. Barely. I have six more months of being a "youth". And then I suppose I get turned into Soylent Green, have I got that right? Or am I mixing movies? It's hard to remember when you're as old as I am.

The best moment was when we got a ten-minute break halfway through. Half of us whipped out our cell phones. One guy brought out his laptop for good measure. The public health student I'd teamed with to describe the "information" consumer of 2010 (like I was going to choose "sports"?) was on her phone saying to someone, did you get the text I sent you about my computer? and lapsing into Persian. Bless her; she was the one who suggested that in addition to the Beeb (I wasn't the only one, incidentally: there were two Europeans in the room and an Australian who all concurred) and the Old Gray Lady, news content should include Al Jazeera. She was neat.

I am feeling all hip and down and shit.

And here, appropos of nothing and via Making Light: dealing with fleas.

the brainiest scholar in singapore explains it all for you

Daryl has come up with a helpful guide to blogging etiquette.

The effect is cumulative, but if forced I would say that this one is my favorite:

7. Remember, if you forget which keys to use, a simple little memory trick is that you should start from the outside and work your way inside. Hence, posts like "poiuy!" are the height of decorum.

Thank you, it's been wonderful talking to all of you. Godspeed.

pull the plug, and look what drains out

I didn't get as much work done yesterday as I'd hoped because I was moving from crying jag to crying jag...not sure why I was so much more emotional than usual. Wasn't premenstrual, had food in my stomach, my back wasn't hurting; none of the usual suspects. I'm getting pretty good at distinguishing "real" moods from those caused by discomfort, hunger, hormones: doesn't always help the mood, but at least I know what's going on and if it's something I've brought on my own self by not, say, remembering to eat. My dad was like that too; he'd get caught up in something and forget to eat. Sometimes for a day or two. No Good.

Part of it, as indicated, is that I was thinking about my dad. Which is code for something larger, really; something I started to blog and then decided against. Too raw, too vulnerable. And while that hasn't stopped me in the past, I have some new readers I don't know or whose motives in visiting are unclear to me. A little more self-protection seems in order. Some of it was about babies, which I may yet talk about. Some of it was about men, which I won't. Because really, what good does that ever do?

This is such a weird technology, isn't it? I can't wait to see what life looks like in twenty years, when we've all gotten used to all this connectivity. When the very word connectivity doesn't sound so damn silly and wrong.

But I digress. I just finished the last first drafts of the Big Project, and I'm eating peas with a huge hunk o' butter and cookie-dough ice cream (seperate, seperate, really) and trying to decide whether to take a victory lap around the block. Or a nap. Nap's winning. I should at least call the Snail Whisperer and see if she still wants to get something pierced; we'd talked about doing that before I went to Berlin, and it never happened. And the end of this project--and my newfound determination to stop catering--seem like something to mark in that particular way.

I'll tell you about the project later. Right now...naptime...

the run-up to father's day

Dear readers who have also lost their dads: does it get easier, eventually? The days before Father's Day, when every ad boasts a product "better than a tie"?

I imagine it's a little worse for me than it might otherwise be, what with the anniversary of my father's death being so close to this blasted made-up retail opportunity, but it's probably just bad, isn't it?

woo-hoo!

Kuwait gets their first female cabinet minister. And women will be able to vote in the next parlimentary elections. Note photo of beautiful rejoicing women.

This is the sort of thing I like waking up to. This and chocolate ice cream over my cereal.

things are getting more interesting at downing street

Another day, another leaked memo: this one written eight months before we invaded Iraq. The British being concerned that we didn't have an adequate postwar strategy, and thus might look to them "to share a disproportionate share of the burden."

If this memo is real, Blair's feet are to the fire now, aren't they?

edit: Marc over at Misanthropicity goes deeper, with his usual lucidity.

do you know a kid between the ages of three and twelve?

Dave DeVries is looking for help with his next book. Dave DeVries is the guy you wish was your weird Uncle Dave, because he would take your line drawings of monsters and heroes and do this with them and make them into something really cool.

I'm afraid I don't remember who tipped me to this guy--maybe my.bicycle?--but thank you, and when I figure it out I'll post the attribution. Right now I'm too busy picking hay out of my crannies after a Western-themed birthday party I just worked and the thought of cruising around the 'net exhausts me.

et cetera

I will pay someone to come to my house and surgically extract this inane Peter Cetera song from my head.

It's been something like three days now. It's giving me a headache, right up front behind my eyes.

so it begins

The new pope has told a group of visiting African bishops that Church teachings are "the only failsafe" protection against AIDS, and decried the "contraception mentality" destroying Africa's moral fabric.

In other words, no condoms for Africa.

23% of the adult population of South Africa has HIV/AIDS. Whether you want to look at that as slightly more than one in five or slightly less than one in four is inconsequential, it's still too damn high.

And Holy Mother Church wonders why it's losing sway...when it is paying so much attention to how things really are in the world.

this not sleeping thing, it's interesting

I just wrote that I don't usually like a particular Shakespeare character because he makes me think of an appendix--doesn't do anything useful, and then swells up and explodes. I wonder if my editor will let it through? Because it's amusing the hell out of me. But then, I haven't really slept in a while.

Everything is amusing me.

sometimes i don't know which feels better when it comes to writing

Writing, or being done with it?

I know I've said this before, but I just pulled an all-nighter and am completely looped, so shoot me. Please. Sometimes the best part is the cessation of pain. This last section wouldn't have been so painful if I hadn't spent most of my time on it transcribing...what a colossal waste of time. But I made my deadline. Two more pieces for these people, small ones, and I am done. Or should I say, I am ready for revisions. Which are a given; there's a committee on the other end of the line.

The most amusing part though has to be that the power went out at about midnight. Occasionally it would flick back on, my printer and DSL box would come back up, and then pwifffff.... back down again. Upstairs my neighbor, deprived of blaring television, would curse. And I had just been thinking about how I should invest in a desktop machine, but I guess this was my message no. Non. Nein. Ni. You get the idea. Since I was working on a laptop with a full battery, I went into the bathroom and worked by the light of the emergency exit light (no, I don't know why there's an emergency exit light in my bathroom, don't ask. It's pointing in the wrong direction, too; if you took it seriously, you'd crash into the mirror). When that finally gave out, I figured I might as well nap for an hour, and then take my keychain drive over to Kinko's and work there.

Happily, the power came back on before that had to happen. So I could be sitting in the middle of the floor at 7 am, diligently applying Monster energy drink to my cavities and cheese popcorn to my arteries and cutting up the script with long shiny scissors and rearranging the pieces. Ah, it was beautiful.

Now the ogre returns to her cave for a few hours of sleep before knocking off some other writing. Yeeep.

this woman is made of iron

I have to admit that if bits of a human body fell on my house from an airplane, I wouldn't be nearly as sanguine as Ms. Hearne.

I'd probably move farther away from the airport, too. But that's just me.

thanks for the mammaries

This is so weird...last night I dreamt I was breastfeeding. Don't ask me why, I have no idea either. Then today I checked in on Mr. Nice Guy for the first time in a while, and he was showing solidarity with lactivists.

You should read him anyway, if descriptions of everything that can come out of a newborn don't bother you. His little girl's going to be so embarrassed in thirteen or fourteen years, but her dad is very funny.

the rat came back

Apologies, first, to everyone who has called today and gotten growled at; in a week, this big project will be signed sealed delivered and I will be human again. It's just right now that's so painful. The particular chunk I'm working on has none of the charms of the others.

Apologies to everyone else who was hoping maybe I'd gotten interesting again: nope. The good writing brain is nowhere near the blog. Nope. Nope.

BUT I thought I would mention that I saw my rodential friend scurry by today, this time on the other side of the redwood fence, and I was glad of it. I had just been reading that the Cahuilla people of Southern California kept roadrunners as pets, which I thought was kind of cool and unusual; the suggestion was that they didn't restrain them in a cage the way we might a parrot or a budgie, but encouraged the birds to hang out close by.

So I'm thinking of this guy as my pet rat. He doesn't live with me, I have no cage for him. He just shows up when I need a spot of brightness. Hello! Hello!

scurryscurryscurry

an embarrassing story of rocking out too hard

I've been all up in the Skype idea lately. For those who haven't heard of it, Skype is free voice-over-internet software. Load it, and if you have a microphone, you can call people for very cheap or free (the latter if they also have Skype, which I'm having a hard time convincing my lazy friends to load, but that is another story.)

If you have Skype and your friend doesn't, you can still call them on their regular non-computer phone for reduced rates. Germany, just as a for-example, is 1.7 euro cents a minute, or about two American cents. Score. So yesterday, in anticipation of a certain birthday that a certain someone in Europe is having today, I bought ten euros worth of SkypeOut credit, and treated myself to a new set of headphones, as the travel pair are spindly and unconvincing. The new pair have those big puffy ear protector thingies that make you feel all closed in and cozy, and there's a rubber strip running under the headband so you don't get a ridge in your hair, and so on. I set a mental alarm for midnight my time, by which time MonkeyScientist should be boiling some soft-boiled eggs in Berlin. Praising my ingenuity, I decided to listen to music while I did some transcription.

Ended up really liking the music. Ended up having a Risky Business moment, sans boxer shorts. Gang of Four, "I Love in a Man in a Uniform", how can one bellydance to this? Look at how far this cord will reach! I marveled. I can get all the way over to the fridge! It's almost as good as being wireless!

Key word: almost.

Because as I was executing a modified Z'ar head move, eyes closed, sweaty shirt discarded, completely blissed out, suddenly there was

no music.

And I was trailing input jacks. And...there was no sound coming from the computer proper. Examination revealed that the little things you stick the jacks into had retreated into the laptop's case and could be heard rattling about.

So much for my sound card. Damn. I had the machine unplugged, flipped over, and divested of a dozen screws before it occurred to me that maybe I should wait until someone who had a CLUE could help me; while I'm really good at taking things apart, putting them back together so they work is sometimes frustrating. And I hadn't backed up any of the stuff I'm working on right now.

Sigh.

Looks like it's time for the Geek Squad. Although I'm not sure if I want people who boast that "we don't date!" touching my computer.

felicitations on your natal anniversary

A little ahead of the game, but accurate where he is; the editor over at Radio Free Mike is taking yet another stab at thirty. Best of wishes.

mmmmmm, grilled mango

Hot Toddy goes hiking with Thor. Funny funny, and a spot-on description of that state where you're so attracted to someone you lose your grasp of your native language.

god bless australia

Really slow getting to work today, so I won't take the time to talk about Navy sonar and why it's probably part of the reason so many marine mammals are beaching themselves. Let me direct you instead to this article about Australian volunteers herding 74 false killer whales back into the ocean.

I particularly recommend the slideshow, if you need a reminder of what good hearted people (especially well-wrapped in neoprene) can do when they pull (or in this case, push) together.

another happy coincidence

The back yard is getting overgrown, and the berries are attracting several kinds of birds. My ability to distinguish one kind of bird from another is spotty at best. I'm pretty clear on penguins versus ostriches, for example, but I couldn't tell a wren from a sparrow if I had one of each up either nostril. And there's been a particularly charming reddish fellow keeping me company as I gnash my teeth over the boring part of my big project. So I thought I'd look him up, but couldn't find a workable guide.

Until I started dabbling in hem's archives, and found the tool for identifying birds she blogged quite some time ago. And it really works. It's a little slow, but makes much more sense than the other ones I found, which asked me first for the bird's species--as if I knew that! Do I look like an ornithologist? Give me questions I can answer from observation, like "what color is it?" and "what shape is the bill?". Each question narrows down the choices until you find your answer. Simple and elegant.

Welcome, little house finch.

i said i thought it would be fun to be a pigeon for five minutes

And this is what I got. Huh.

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.

In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored.

You'd like to your lover to think you are stylish and alluring.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was ruthless, cold-blooded, and sarcastic.

Your ideal relationship is open. Both of you can talk about everything... no secrets.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.

In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.

What Are The Keys To Your Heart?